Counselor’s Corner: “Didn’t I Tell You To Take Out the Trash?!”

Below is a part of an article written by Jim and his son Charles Fay who are well known parenting experts. They are co-founders of the Love and Logic Institute in Colorado.  This article helps support the concept of how much children learn through doing chores at home. While children may complain about the chores; chores give children a since of value within the family.  Chores help teach responsibility and lets children see the value of cooperation and teamwork.  Even small tasks are important teaching moments.

Following our recent snow storm, the service and product providers known as fathers were out trying to clear the walks and driveways. There was not a kid to be seen anywhere.

I commented to a neighbor that in the past, kids would be out with their shovels helping clear the snow. After that they would be off shoveling walks to earn money.

“Is that where your kids are?” I asked.

“No,” he answered. “Kids today aren’t that motivated.”

He blames today’s kids. Little does he know that parents are the ones who train kids to believe they are honored guests in the home, rather than contributing members of a family team.

Many tasks, like snow removal, yard work, are family jobs where kids can and should become part of the team. Kids should be helping in any way that is appropriate for their age. Even small kids can help prepare drinks or snacks to serve the ones who are doing the hard work. The last thing I want to see is a kid sleeping in or playing video games while their parents do these jobs alone.

To learn more about how to get your kids to do family contributions without complaining, listen to the audio “Didn’t I Tell You To Take Out the Trash?!”  by Jim Fay.

More information from Jim and Charles Fay can be found on their website or contact Karen Hanson, Fairmeadows School Counselor at 633-6544 or